Are You Really Hearing Your Partner? by Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

I like the tips here for listening and agree that really listening includes letting go of value judgments to absorb the messages.

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When your partner has something important to discuss with you or you’re having a disagreement, do you really listen when your partner speaks? Or are you ready and waiting to defend yourself or your point of view?

We need to remember it’s not about who is right or wrong or about winning. We need to remember its okay to be called out on something we’ve done as long as the other person is respectful in sharing about it. There’s no shame in making a mistake. We all do. It’s part of being human and it teaches us what we want to do differently in the future.

So if it’s really okay to make a mistake or to have different beliefsyou may be able to become a better listener.

Here’s how:

1. Listen without interrupting. If you need too, grab a pad and take notes.

2. Try repeating back to your…

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