Have some strategies ready to help manage a bully situation.
What to do if your friend or classmate is a bully: (HAHASO) Make a paper bracelet that says HAHASO so you can wear it to school and remind yourself what to do once you have learned the strategies below.
- Who can Help? – teacher, nurse, counselor, principal, coaches (adults)
- How can you get Help? –go by yourself, with a group of friends, or write a note to an adult at your school.
- Use this if you are alone
- Look the bully in the eye
- Use “I” statement ex. “I don’t like it when you pull on my backpack!”
- Make your statement and walk away
- Use humor in a positive way – no mean jokes.
- Make a joke about what the bully, NOT the bully.
- If they make fun of your hair you can say “ Wow, I didn’t know you cared that much about my hair!”
- Avoid places where the bully hangs out
- Join a group of other kids rather than playing by yourself
- This can help you feel better about yourself
- Ex. “This is his problem” “That is not true!” “I know I’m smart”
- Agree with the bully and then walk away
- You can own it and use humor too…. “Yep, this is a bad haircut, I was out of control with the scissors!”
- You can own it and be assertive too…. “Yep, I did fail the test and I don’t appreciate you looking at my paper!”
*IMPORTANT REMINDER: If the strategies aren’t working… leave the situation!
How do I handle name-calling?
- Ignore it: pretend like the person doesn’t exist so you can’t hear anything they are saying
- Have good comebacks ready: Use a classic or new comeback to protect against name calling, like “I know you are, but what am I?”
- Practice with a friend: Have a friend be a bully and practice your comebacks on them, then switch.
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